Last Updated: November 10, References. This article was co-authored by Nicole Moore. With over a decade of experience, she specializes in body language and helping others take control of their dating life, attract a partner, and build a strong relationship. She also hosts Love Works with Nicole Moore, a podcast for modern women wanting love, dating, and relationship advice. There are 11 references cited in this article, which can be found at the bottom of the page. This article has been viewed 1,, times. Many men find oral sex to be a sensual and intimate part of lovemaking, but not all women are readily open to giving it or receiving it until there is some discussion to address their fears and put them at ease. It can feel uncomfortable or even awkward to start the conversation, but talking about intimate matters with your partner will help build trust and intimacy even if she's initially opposed to the idea.
Step 1: Warm Up
For creating anticipation.
We asked sex educators and sex therapists to share their best advice on how to make it a very satisfying experience for all involved. Note: Just remember these are general tips. Focus on a slow buildup maybe start with a body massage or a make-out session , then pay special attention to the clitoris, which, for many women, must be stimulated in order for them to have an orgasm. Try circles, moving your tongue up and down, or left to right. When going down on your partner, you can supplement some tongue action by using your hands to stroke the clitoris, play with the labia or finger her. Using your hands can double or even triple the amount of sensation you can create, and can give your mouth a break when you need it. Mind reading is overrated. The best way to know what a woman wants in bed is simple: Ask her. Too much between-the-sheets chitchat may not seem sexy to some, but your commitment to making your partner feel amazing will be appreciated. We promise.
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Hey, cutie. Just wanted to let you know that this story originally ran in our March issue , so if you like what you see, you should probably snag a hard copy ASAP. Finally, there are numbers to back up a sad-ass truth that straight women have known for too long: When it comes to oral sex, many dudes are tongue-tied. In a recent survey, 67 percent of hetero men admitted to sex-toy start-up company Cunni that they sometimes feel completely lost down there.
But great oral sex can send a woman to 7th heaven, to say the least. For women, cunnilingus is the equivalent of a blowjob for men. Your girl will thank you and ask for it again and again. Another thing that women love about oral sex is the aspect of extreme intimacy and sensuality to be found in the mouth, lips, and tongue of her man, at once hot and wet, fluctuating between sweetness and strength. As a general rule, a woman needs more time to reach orgasm than a man. This rule applies to oral sex, too, so keep that in mind. Be patient and keep a good sense of rhythm when you decide to go down on your girl. Regardless, it always takes longer than making a man come from a blowjob. You need to make different movements with your tongue and your mouth, while using your hands and fingers on other parts of her body, as well.